正在看一本书，其中这段很有感触，先不说是什么书了
 

正在看一本书，其中这段很有感触，先不说是什么书了

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Wealth, status and power have become in our culture all too powerful symbols of happiness. When we see people who are rich, famous, or good-looking, we tend to assume that their lives are rewarding, even though all the evidence might point to their being miserable. And we assume that if only we could acquire some of those same symbols, we would be much happier.

If we do actually succeed in becoming richer, or more powerful, we believe, at least for a time, that life as a whole has improved. But symbols can be deceptive: they have a tendency to distract from the reality they are supposed to represent. And the reality is that the quality of life does not depend directly on what others think of us or on what we own. The bottom line is: rather, how we feel about ourselves and about what happens to us. To improve life one must improve the quality of experience.


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INTERESTING POINT

因为距离的原因，我们看到的都是大的Pictures，别人的成功，富裕和光鲜，而繁枝细节我们是看不见的。

但当距离近的时候，我们又会被些杂乱枝末所影响到整个Picture的理解，这有点像爱情和婚姻的关系。

To improve life one must improve the quality of experience. 确实是如此，Life 不就是由点点滴滴的experience组成的吗。

我们见到这样的论述到处存在，这也说明：

1。我们是普遍高估别人的成功。 所以也无需自怨自艾，这样也才能提高我们的Life Quality。

2。当我们取得成功时，需要不断提醒自己，这是不是我真正想要的生活。

this is from another book:
"Obviously, circumstances alone do not make us happy or unhappy. It is the way we react to circumstances that determines our feelings. Jesus said that the kingdom of heaven is within you. That is where the kingdom of hell is, too. :)
We can all endure disaster and tragedy and triumph over them - if we have to. We may not think we can, but we have surprisingly strong inner resources that will see us through if we will only make use of them. We are stronger than we think."