[River]

今天看到一句话， 觉得很不错，特别是当我觉得忍耐力不够的时候,
希望同那些有“过于顽皮”孩子的父母共勉。


摘自《别宠坏孩子》

父母对孩子不厌其烦指正， 其实是培育孩子自我克制能力的一个途径。


英文原文节选：

Today's parents desperately need to be taught that the most loving thing they can do for their children is to be in charge. They must be taught to just say no. Even Betsy Taylor, executive director of the Maryland based center recognizes this. "Ultimately" she says, "it's a parent's responsibility to set better limits and stick to them." When it comes to nagging, the article states, 55 percent of the youth surveyed said they can "usually get their parents to give in." Sixty percent admitted they could "manipulate their parents on 'small things' before they started first grade." Marian Salzman, the chief strategic officer for an ad agency, admitted, "kids are at the center of today's households." She's dead right.

The youth that were polled are between the ages of 12 and 17. However "experts say nagging is a habit learned much earlier." I am reluctant to admit it, but for once the experts are right. The embarrassing results of child-centered parenting do not begin to show themselves in the clothing store at 12 or 13 years old. They start at a much younger age. In fact, they begin before the crib is disassembled and hauled up to the attic. For the child-centered parent the world revolves around that little bundle of joy. "We can't go there because little Sally won't like the food." "If we do that Joey might fuss." "If we go out tonight then Julie will give the babysitter a hard time." And on and on and on. Every time Junior cries, a family crisis has begun.



http://www.ifca.org/voice/04Sep-Oct/tautges.htm