小孩到底要不要抱的问题

[十之八九]

作者: 喜羊羊

大的抱的少。小的不抱就哭，所以就经常抱。我们家是典型的会哭的孩子有奶吃。

这个和我家一样。

[十之八九]

作者: pucca 影子

和我们家的一个样，不仅要竖着抱，还得站着抱，光站着还不行，还得轻轻的rock他。晚上也都是抱着他睡觉，一放下来就睡不稳要闹。这以后他越来越重我都不知道我撑的住不

你家的多大了？我家的一个月就长了1000g，照这趋势，我得去练练举重啥的。

[Pucca普卡]

作者: 十之八九

你家的多大了？我家的一个月就长了1000g，照这趋势，我得去练练举重啥的。

现在9个星期了，他一个月长了4磅，我也练举重哈

[sage]

作者: 十之八九

我也不想抱啊，可她死命地哭，花样还多，横着抱不行，要竖着抱。

小宝宝肚里容易有气，所以很多都喜欢竖着抱。我们家两个都是这样。
我就一个玩具一个玩具地换着玩。这个不干了换另一个：swing，bouncer，saucer，jumper，bassinet，bumbo，床轮着来。实在不成就上背带或者开车出去买点东西。我现在天天都出去grocery shopping。

[十之八九]

作者: pucca 影子

现在9个星期了，他一个月长了4磅，我也练举重哈

有两个月了，战友，一起努力吧。

[十之八九]

作者: wiki

小宝宝肚里容易有气，所以很多都喜欢竖着抱。我们家两个都是这样。
我就一个玩具一个玩具地换着玩。这个不干了换另一个：swing，bouncer，saucer，jumper，bassinet，bumbo，床轮着来。实在不成就上背带或者开车出去买点东西。我现在天天都出去grocery shopping。...

你家东西可真多，就你上回说的bumbo，我一查吓一跳，就那么个小凳加上税要70多了呢，真想不通。

[sage]

作者: pucca 影子

和我们家的一个样，不仅要竖着抱，还得站着抱，光站着还不行，还得轻轻的rock他。晚上也都是抱着他睡觉，一放下来就睡不稳要闹。这以后他越来越重我都不知道我撑的住不

根据最新的一份研究表明：是个什么人跟踪了17个国家3万多孩子3年。孩子怎么睡着的醒来后还需要怎么着。rock着的孩子醒来就要rock，喂奶睡着的孩子醒来就要喂奶。而且长久下去孩子容易有sleep disorder。最好的方法是让孩子在离父母三尺远的地方自己入睡，

Saturday, Jun. 13, 2009
Advice for Coddling Parents: Put Baby to Bed Alone
By Tiffany Sharples
Entire volumes have been written about the subject of infant sleep — getting babies to sleep, keeping them asleep, making sure their sleep environment is safe.

One topic of continued debate among parents is co-sleeping, or bed-sharing, a common practice in countries outside the U.S. Fueled by increasing evidence, however, more pediatricians and sleep experts are dissuading parents from sharing a bed or a bedroom with their babies, recommending instead that babies be allowed to learn how to fall asleep and stay asleep on their own. Studies suggest that establishing independent and healthy sleep habits early in infancy not only improves babies' daily mood and behavior, but may also have long-term implications for their overall health and well-being. Children who don't sleep enough may be at increased risk of being overweight and having emotional and behavioral difficulties in adolescence and adulthood, for example. (See the top 10 children's books of 2008.)

So, where should parents draw the line between goodnight cuddling and unhealthy bedtime coddling? Sleep researcher Jodi Mindell says it has less to do with where the baby's crib is physically situated — although, ideally, it should be in a separate room — and more with what parents are doing when their children fall asleep. "It's parental presence," says Mindell, author of Sleeping Through the Night: How Infants, Toddlers and Their Parents Can Get a Good Night's Sleep. "Even if you're sharing a bed or a room, don't be present, either literally or figuratively. So don't be holding your baby, or nursing or rocking. Have them fall asleep three feet away. If they're slightly separated, they sleep much better."

Mindell, a psychology professor at Saint Joseph's University and associate director of the Sleep Center at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia, gathered sleep data on nearly 30,000 children up to 3 years old in 17 countries — among them, some that were predominately Caucasian (including the U.S., U.K., Canada, Australia and New Zealand) and others that were predominately Asian (such as China, Thailand, Malaysia, Japan and Korea). In the U.S. and other mostly Caucasian countries, Mindell found that only 12% of parents reported bed-sharing, and 22% reported room-sharing. But in Asian countries the numbers were much higher: fully 65% of parents shared beds with their infants, and 87% slept in the same room.

Consistent with previous research, Mindell found that co-sleeping — sleeping in the same bed or bedroom — led to more disturbed sleep in infants. Accordingly, babies living in Asia got much less sleep overall and significantly less quality sleep than infants in the U.S. But the differences, upon further analysis of the data, were somewhat more nuanced. When Mindell and her fellow researchers examined data on babies in Asia who slept alone, the quality and duration of their sleep were just as low as babies who co-slept with parents.

Why? "In Asia, parents are nearly always with their kids when they fall asleep," says Mindell. In the U.S., by contrast, when babies bed down in a separate room, "you're falling asleep on your own," Mindell says. "Mommy or Daddy puts you down, they walk out and they say goodnight." (See pictures of showbiz's hardest-working moms at LIFE.com.)

Mindell is careful to emphasize that while her research, which was funded by Johnson & Johnson, does not support co-sleeping, it doesn't absolutely condemn it either. One question that remains: if vast numbers of babies in Asian populations are sleeping less than their Western peers — without any apparently society-wide disadvantage — does it truly matter if babies co-sleep or not?

"Do Asian babies need less sleep?" Mindell wonders, adding that understanding how some infants thrive on less sleep is the next step in research: "to figure out why that is, and what's the consequence."

Nevertheless, Mindell believes that parents should build bedtime routines that promote sound rest, though that doesn't necessarily mean babies must sleep through the night. "Waking is normal," she says. "All babies wake somewhere between two and six times per night."

The problem with being present when your baby falls asleep is that they'll also expect you to be there to help them get back to sleep each time. "If you're rocked to sleep, nursed to sleep, fed to sleep at bedtime, you're going to need that every time you wake up."

To counter that dependence, Mindell suggests that parents indulge in a regular goodnight routine, but slip away before the baby drifts off to sleep. "We want bedtime to be this wonderful time for families, we want the cuddling, we want the story reading, we want that to be a really special part of the day," Mindell says. "We just want the literal falling asleep to be independent."

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[sage]

作者: 十之八九

你家东西可真多，就你上回说的bumbo，我一查吓一跳，就那么个小凳加上税要70多了呢，真想不通。

不是送的就是借的。自己花钱买的只有Bumbo和bassinet。

[Pucca普卡]

作者: wiki

根据最新的一份研究表明：是个什么人跟踪了17个国家3万多孩子3年。孩子怎么睡着的醒来后还需要怎么着。rock着的孩子醒来就要rock，喂奶睡着的孩子醒来就要喂奶。而且长久下去孩子容易有sleep disorder。最好的方法是让孩子在离父母三尺远的地方自己入睡，

well, my son is only 2 months old. He has never slept in his crib; he just wont. hopefully, when night feeding becomes less, i can gradually build a bedtime routine to help him fall asleep on his own

[浮 云]

除了sleep training的时候，闺女一哭我就抱。

[sage]

作者: pucca 影子

well, my son is only 2 months old. He has never slept in his crib; he just wont. hopefully, when night feeding becomes less, i can gradually build a b...

这个研究也不能证明就是权威的。比如说亚洲小孩睡眠质量低是因为跟父母同床而睡造成的。但是数据表明，不跟父母同床而睡的亚洲孩子睡眠时间还是短。这个研究的作者也说这些不同会是下一步研究的题材。

[十之八九]

作者: 浮 云

除了sleep training的时候，闺女一哭我就抱。

什么时候开始sleep training?

[浮 云]

作者: 十之八九

什么时候开始sleep training?

一般是六个月之后就可以了。

[十之八九]

作者: 浮 云

一般是六个月之后就可以了。

只怕那时我手臂肌肉都练出来了。

[美麗無罪]

10mm，你女儿跟细细粒都一样，细细粒一出生就要抱，放下就醒、就会闹，都是她爸爸搞成的，一天到黑到抱着不愿放，到她两星期大后，她爸要出外工作，那时下午就搞死我了，我狠心的把她放在swing上摇呀摇，哈…小人儿即时乖乖的安静下来就睡着去.....

不知你买了swing未，我觉得真很有用，细细粒每次坐进去我就省心、省力了，基本初生至6个月大很多时都用上，很有安抚睡午觉作用！

[浮 云]

作者: 十之八九

只怕那时我手臂肌肉都练出来了。

没办法，权当健身了。

[美麗無罪]

作者: 浮 云

一般是六个月之后就可以了。

嘻嘻…云妹，细细粒自从戒夜奶后到现在，都是8-9点上床自己睡觉，我们保持得好好啊！

[十之八九]

作者: 美麗無罪

10mm，你女儿跟细细粒都一样，细细粒一出生就要抱，放下就醒、就会闹，都是她爸爸搞成的，一天到黑到抱着不愿放，到她两星期大后，她爸要出外工作，那时下午就搞死我了，我狠心的把她放在swing上摇呀摇，哈…小人儿即时乖乖的安静下来就睡着去.....

不知你买了swing未，我觉得真很有用，细细粒每...

美丽你来啦！我家这个也是呀，她爸爸喜欢抱，但抱不了多长时间小人儿又哭，只得我来抱，我一抱就不哭了，LG说她喜欢我的味道，我想多半是他自己身上烟味太重，小孩不喜欢。我没买swing，只有个bouncer，有时放上面晒晒太阳，但她也睡不了太长时间，护士也说那个bouncer对骨骼不好。

[浮 云]

作者: 美麗無罪

嘻嘻…云妹，细细粒自从戒夜奶后到现在，都是8-9点上床自己睡觉，我们保持得好好啊！

还是美丽MM厉害呀

[美麗無罪]

作者: 十之八九

美丽你来啦！我家这个也是呀，她爸爸喜欢抱，但抱不了多长时间小人儿又哭，只得我来抱，我一抱就不哭了，LG说她喜欢我的味道，我想多半是他自己身上烟味太重，小孩不喜欢。我没买swing，只有个bouncer，有时放上面晒晒太阳，但她也睡不了太长时间，护士也说那个bouncer对骨骼不好。

我刚才喂奶带女儿上床嘛，我没有买bouncer chair，觉得有swing已经够了，客厅都没有地方放太多BB用品，上个月细细粒去朋友家才第一次坐bouncer chair，她很喜欢、坐在上面2小时没有闹过睡着了.....我买swing 都是二手，才50元，值得投资的！

记得细细粒初出生后不久，午夜喂夜奶我跟lg吵嘴，我发脾气睡觉什么都不理，叫她爸搞定，谁知女儿吃完奶后闹过不停，爸爸都不知怎样抱好，之后我忍不住一抱上手，女儿立马安静，爸爸当时傻眼了，又气又妒忌，哈哈…女儿都知妈妈重要啊！