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有劲验的妈妈们,新生儿可以多抱抱吗
有经验的妈妈们: 我的宝宝刚刚出生20天, 我们很喜欢他。看到他可爱的样子我们总是想多抱抱他,但是有人说宝宝不要抱太多, 以免以后不能自己入睡, 总是让大人陪着。 所以我要请教有劲验的妈妈们, 应不应该多抱宝宝呢。
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Jul 10th, 2006, 21:36 | 只看该作者 #18 |
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Basic trust What infants are learning during this period is a sense of basic trust (or mistrust) in the world. If their needs are met promptly and lovingly, they come to feel that the world is a benign place, a place where good things generally happen and bad experiences are soon rectified. The famous psychiatrist Erik Erikson felt that this sense of basic trust becomes a core of the baby's character. So the answer to the question "Can a young baby be spoiled?" is no, not until he's old enough to understand why his needs aren't being immediately met --(maybe at 9 months of age). Secure attachment Psychologists use the term "secure attachment" to talk about basic trust. A child who has a secure attachment to a parent or caregiver believes deep down that that parent will keep him safe and will provide for his pressing needs. A lot of research shows that this sense of security develops during the first year of an infant's life, and then continues to deepen and change as the child grows. Babies who do not have a chance to develop an attachment by 1 year of age -- babies, for example, who are raised in orphanages with little or no personal attention -- often have severe problems in forming relationships. Babies with strong, secure attachments are more able to go off to school and to learn. Some parents feel that babies have to learn at a young age to be independent and comfort themselves. They worry that picking up babies right away when they cry will make them overly dependent. I like to tell these parents about a very important study on the effects picking up crying babies. Babies whose parents tried to respond promptly to their crying actually cried less, and were more independent as preschoolers, compared to babies who were left to "cry it out." Their earlier experience had made them more secure, so they were better able to handle difficulties by themselves later on. |
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