【求助】死与离婚 我选哪个？

[枫中雪]

孩子，父母，他们都是你的牵挂，你可以爱他们，但是，永远记住，你应该为自己活着。。。
为自己活着，否则孩子和父母也会成为你的负累，就像你一直活在你老公阴影里一样。

[青青子衿]

冷静下来想一想,千万不要失去自我,这尤其对有了孩子的女人很重要的,逐渐走进社会,跟住潮流

[dangbl]

作者: 受气包子

楼上各位，很抱歉我真的 没有时间一一回你们的帖子了，非常感谢你们的关心， 看了你们的帖子，我想我不会傻到去死了，动不动就寻死的人我以前也看不起的，想不到我就是其中的一员。
有时候鬼迷了心窍， 觉得死了就解脱了。我就是 没有学会怎样控制自己的情绪。
我劳工实际上是很优秀的一个人，我们结婚前的三年里...

婚姻这门功课，一辈子都需要学习

LZ可以看看《金婚》，谁都逃脱不了现实。。。

[受气包子]

Thank you all for the valuable thoughts you put here
I am so shocked to see so many posting here, During I was reading all these wonderful warm words, I could not help my tears.
It is so kind of you guys, thanks a lot.

[受气包子]

I am working right now, and I want to apologize that i typed in English.
I leave home at 6 am in the morning and get back home at 6 Pm in the afternoon everyday. All Mom know that 3~4 hours is not enough for spending with kids. so I never had a chance to use the computer at night except weekend.
Sorry~~~

[受气包子]

作者: 雅意

看来你们远远到不了考虑离婚和死的地步。有时候感情太好了，有一点摩擦都让人受不了。建议你这几天少和他说话， 该干什么干什么，没事带着孩子溜遛弯， 找朋友聊聊--别聊吵架这事，好像这事对你没影响，淡他几天。等他冷静了，他会向你示好的。

But tell you the truth; we have talked already right after the next day after we fought. Living in the same house we have so many things get involved to each other. I had to tell him when is the time for the parents interview and I had to remind him his appointment that I made for him and the worst part is that we had friends came over on Sunday and we had to pretend that nothing happened.
I lost again.

[受气包子]

作者: redboy2000

爱情也象手里握的沙子，不要握的太紧。任何时候，爱自己别人才能爱你，尊重自己别人才能尊重你。无论在家庭里成员如何分工，都不能成为一种依附，这个依附很多时候不是经济上的，是精神上的。精神依附对自己是沉沦，对别人也是负担。

Totally agree! Thank you.

[受气包子]

作者: windfjf

'他不爱我我干嘛爱他, 我又不是花痴"--送给你吧

Maybe he does not love me any more, but I still love him. That is the situation I have right now. Shame on me!
And definitely I am a "花痴".

[taihe]

作者: 受气包子

Maybe he does not love me any more, but I still love him. That is the situation I have right now. Shame on me!
And definitely I am a "花痴".

Love is enjoy
When love turned to a will of dying for, it's psycho

[受气包子]

作者: bank

没事。气头上一时说了过头的话。过后他就下跪道歉了。你们别跟着掺合。那谁说的对，也不死，也不离婚，日子照样过。就是以后怎么能叫你劳工收敛一点，标说那些伤感情的话，那话楼主都会记一辈子的。

Yes, He did apologize to me and he almost got his way.
“下跪 ” is not possible, he will never ever do that to me and also that is not what I expected.

[受气包子]

作者: zhang fan

你可以大哭或者大笑,最屁也是用你的眼睛狠狠的瞪他十分钟,把他吓个半死,下次再骂你还是瞪他十分钟,吓S他,以后他再也不敢吱声了

I am not good at “ 大哭” and “ 大笑 ”. Plus even I am, I know he won’t take it anyway.
Usually he is always the one who has big eyes.

[受气包子]

作者: honey123

你啊你,你就是太没用,什么都依赖老工,所以他才越来越瞧不起你,看你不顺眼,自强点,试着改变自己,,你的人生观慢慢会改变的,说不定那一天你老公成了你的受气包子呢

You know me very well, thank you.
Turning him to my “ 受气包子 ” I don’t think so.

[受气包子]

作者: 思松

受气包子和奶皇包子你究竟喜欢吃哪个呢？当然是后者呢，谁愿意吃受气的包子令自己满身瘴气的活受罪喔？所以呢，你以后就别再老惦记着自己是受气包子拉，就试着幻想自己是美丽甜蜜的奶黄包子，是一位人见人爱，车见车载，老公见了都要开怀抱的美丽小甜甜。。。。。。btw,我是挺喜欢吃奶黄包的，很好吃，有时候我在家自己...

Everybody likes “ 奶黄包子 ”, I am not an exception.
The problem is: it is not like that if you feel like that you are “奶黄包子 ” and then you will be a “ 奶黄包子”. at least, I can't. I am not that confident.
By the way I love cooking.

[受气包子]

作者: sauli

心烦了就给身边的朋友说说，把自己的情绪发泄出去，心情会好很多。
很多人想活着没有健康的身体，你有健康的身体更应该珍惜生命。
还有孩子是咱们女人的心头肉，你怎么舍得抛下他呢？ 生活不如意十有八九，但应该积极
乐观的去面对。至于婚姻，是种运气，这次运气不好，未必下次就不好。
好男人还是很多的...

I lost after all these years hard working only because I was too negative.
The good thing is that I lost this time but I won’t lose the lesson. Thank you for your help.

[受气包子]

作者: zhongjing

你跟他一定是前世冤家对头人，有道是： 夫妻是缘，好缘坏缘，有缘才合：儿女是债，欠债还债，有债必还。忍一忍吧。死了，下辈子一样要还。生辰八字给叔叔看看，有空给你解疑解。
哎，什么世道。

You might be right , that is why I am still thinking and wondering.

[受气包子]

作者: Tonini

楼主别那么沮丧，建议先报警再办离婚，拿一半的财产之后再考虑以后的道路，时间久了就会发现生活就是这样，过去的不快只是一个插曲，为了这个去死一点都不值得，你一定会发现有值得的事情在等你。Take it easy!

很多人都会鼓励楼主的！

Thank you thank you thank you for your encourage for millions times.
All I want to have is a happy marriage. that is it.

[受气包子]

作者: 枫中雪

孩子，父母，他们都是你的牵挂，你可以爱他们，但是，永远记住，你应该为自己活着。。。
为自己活着，否则孩子和父母也会成为你的负累，就像你一直活在你老公阴影里一样。

I am sorry I am just unable to do that. Live for myself? It is Easy to say but hard to do.
I will remember what you said here and try my best to change myself. Thak you.

[受气包子]

作者: 青青子衿

冷静下来想一想,千万不要失去自我,这尤其对有了孩子的女人很重要的,逐渐走进社会,跟住潮流

You are right, I noticed that so far the most important thing for me is getting my “ 自我 ”back, but how?

[受气包子]

作者: dangbl

婚姻这门功课，一辈子都需要学习

LZ可以看看谁都逃脱不了现实。。。

Thank you for the suggestion. I am looking forward to watching “ 《金婚》， ” but I don’t think I have time right now.


I am learning, I am changing, and I am developing. However I am still not good enough.
Having a loving atmosphere in my home is the dream for my life; please tell me how I can get there.

[受气包子]

作者: taihe

Love is enjoy
When love turned to a will of dying for, it's psycho

agree!