I also want to kill myself

apple0811 · Jul 26th, 2006, 16:04

I am a female, having nobody care about me and love me. I also feel I want to kill myself a lot of times because I feel I am not important to anyone. I endure, endure and endure, hoping and waiting love in my life to give me some hope. However, I feel human beings are selfish, unreliable, I can not find anyone could let me depend on in my life and give me the hope. I really can not go further any longer, I am so tired, lonely and painful. I have overcomed so many difficulties, burned so much pains, but I feel it is endless sufferings.

I don't know how can I save myself. I only can concentrate on work, study to forget my pains, still that is my solution. Is it helpful to have a religion?
Is there anyone who have the same feeling?

sky walker · Jul 26th, 2006, 16:17

where are your parents? do you love them?
well, if you don't care yourself, really no one can help you.

小木 · Jul 26th, 2006, 16:23

wanna be loved? why wait for it? go and fight for it.

sunchem · Jul 26th, 2006, 16:24

calm down.buy a cold coke first. then sit down and enjoy you coke. keep staying on this forum.someone will help you i think.

Pilotski · Jul 26th, 2006, 16:28

去参加一些聚会，活动，多认识些朋友，心情就会好起来。

Apache · Jul 26th, 2006, 16:29

引用:

作者: apple0811

However, I feel human beings are selfish, unreliable, I can not find anyone could let me depend on in my life and give me the hope.....

why r u looking for sb to let you depend on him in your life instead to let him depend on you?

fenyullow · Jul 26th, 2006, 16:30

I feel human beings are selfish, unreliable, I can not find anyone could let me depend on

>> 在说别人的时候，有时候也要想想自己。您说人很自私，不可靠，让您觉得无法依赖，但是您有没有想过您这种一死百了、置亲人、朋友于不顾，也是一种自私，而且是更大的自私。

我们处在无休止的轮回痛苦之中，感觉到各种各样的痛苦是再正常不过的，没有感觉不是因为没有痛苦，而是已经麻木了而已。

我经常劝人的一句话是：我们无法改变我们所处的环境，但是我们能改变的是我们自己的心灵，是我们对环境的看法。

flood · Jul 26th, 2006, 16:34

我跟你一样滴感受，你不孤独，好好活着就是最大滴福分~

猎户老常 · Jul 26th, 2006, 16:34

引用:

作者: apple0811

I am a female, having nobody care about me and love me. I also feel I want to kill myself a lot of times because I feel I am not important to anyone....

不要期望任何人来照顾你爱你，而要自己照顾自己，爱自己，然后才可能有人爱你，照顾你；

不是你对他人不重要，而是你没有在心里看重自己，试着看重自己，不要看低自己的潜力；

请继续忍耐，给自己多一些爱，不要想着依赖别人，要自己先依赖自己。

还是有许多人愿意帮助他人，世界上有许多善良的人。你如果认为这世界上的人都是自私，不可靠，你在生活中就不会遇到好人，因为你的想法决定了你的遭遇，所以，积极一些。

作为一个佛教慕道友，我强烈推荐你追寻佛教，这会对你很有好处。你的痛苦遭遇来自于你过去（前世）的所作所为，忍耐是转化消除这种痛苦的方法，千万不要自杀，因为你所欠的债务不会因为你的自杀消亡。

将注意力集中在自己身上就是痛苦的根源，试着去帮助别人，为他人着想，多做善事，你的痛苦就会渐渐减轻。

小木 · Jul 26th, 2006, 16:36

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作者: Apache

why r u looking for sb to let you depend on him in your life instead to let him depend on you?

little bird is too tired to fly, who can help her to find her nest, pls?

_chinese_ · Jul 26th, 2006, 16:39

FLG can help you. 真善忍是做人的宗旨。

To find someone to depend on is a selfish thought.

b747lr · Jul 26th, 2006, 16:49

俺要准备成立个捐款基金会了

b747lr · Jul 26th, 2006, 17:04

俺这么说吧

如果你觉得长得不错, 那就不用着急, 自然有鱼会上钩的, 但是如果你太挑剔, 那是你自己的事

如果你觉得长得不好看, 那一定得用出你女人的本事, 不好看的女人找到个称心的男人, 这种例子很多, 看你女人的手腕了

如果你还年轻, 这种事不用太着急, 急躁的心态会过去的

如果你年纪较大了, 那就不要计较太多, 抓住一个是一个(不要老想什么love, 那东西很虚)

最忌讳的是要寻死, 这样那个男人敢和你......? 这是女人的大忌, 你这样想, 很可能就是你目前状况的原因. 这个世界, 是谁也不欠谁的.

成虫 · Jul 26th, 2006, 17:16

如果这不是坑的话，俺可以帮你。
想开一点，没有过不去的槛。
不过如果你真的真的真的想死，就去吧。这是你的权利，任何人也无法剥夺的。

杜德伟 · Jul 26th, 2006, 17:37

·素黑黑洞博客·

很多人有抑忧症，觉得难以自控，像被无形的力量牵引住，捆缚到最后还是无法解脱的痛苦。为什么抑郁症那么可怕和难医？

抑郁症最大的问题不是病的本身，而是你认同它的心态。

每个人或多或少有抑郁的本质，但成熟的人会转移情绪，不会让单一情绪过份集中，致把所有能量全倾倒在抑郁上，结果无法容纳其它正面的情绪反应如快乐，自如，平和。

孤独本来就是生命的本质，而负面的人却将孤独扩大，变成独特的痛苦，只有自己一个人领悟的可怜状态。这样又中了负面思想的陷阱，结果是，不是快乐从没出现过，而是你选择放弃快乐，宁愿拥抱痛苦不愿放手，因为失去痛苦的惯性，你变得很空洞，不懂得向其它情绪反应。这才是病态。

记住：痛苦的原因可能是真的，但维护它却是你的选择，你所经历的并不是痛苦的必然原因，反而是你逃避快乐或平静的借口。

每个人都曾经受过伤害，爱情的，亲情的，友情的，职场上的恩怨是非，甚至学校里尔虞我诈的人性丑陋。但活在过去的人会执着伤痛，勇敢的人会向前走，为自己疗伤，所以他们会健康快乐起来。

我们无法改变际遇和不幸，但我们可以有觉知的能力改变自己的情绪，所以有些人能坚强面对逆境，有些会沉溺在抑郁中不能自拔。成熟的人是对自己所有的发生负责任。

b747lr · Jul 26th, 2006, 17:43

女人有两个忌讳:

第一, 不要整天在love上胡思乱想, 那是中学生的境界. 你脑子里的那种love根本就没有, 所以自然觉得其他人自私, 就是直截了当, 找个男人过

第二, 不要太挑. 很多条件很好的女孩, 跳来跳去, 误了终身, 这见过很多啦

happyboy · Jul 26th, 2006, 20:51

by Joyce Meyer

A major problem facing many people today is loneliness. It seems to have become even more of an issue recently. As I travel the world, I see an increasing number of people requesting help and guidance for handling the loneliness in their lives.

In the Bible, God tells us we are not alone. He wants to deliver, comfort, and heal us. But when people encounter painful losses in their lives, sadly, many never get over them. Sometimes when sudden tragedy occurs, the hurt seems unbearable. Without help, a sense of loneliness can actually settle on a person or family like a cloud—and it doesn't seem to go away.

There are many causes of loneliness, but many people don't realize that they don't need to live with it. They can confront it and deal with it. Loneliness often manifests as an inner ache, a vacuum, or a craving for affection. Its side effects include feelings of emptiness, uselessness, or purposelessness.

Are you alone (independent, solitary, on your own), or are you lonely (desolate, deserted, dejected due to a lack of companionship)? There is a very real difference. It is important to realize that just because you are alone, it doesn't mean that you must be lonely or lonesome. While it may not always be possible to avoid being alone, there are always answers to loneliness. Many times loneliness results from a trauma or crisis resulting from the death of a loved one, a divorce, or separation. When something happens to make us realize that things are never going to be the way they once were, it often creates crisis or trauma in our lives, which can lead to a sense of loneliness and despair.

Like a wound healing, the pain may be felt for a long time, but complete recovery requires daily improvement. When a physical wound refuses to heal, it is an indication that there is an infection that must be dealt with. I believe the same is true of emotional wounds. The emotional part of us should heal just like the physical part of us. God gave us emotions just as He gave us physical bodies. He has provided for our emotional restoration just as He has provided for our physical healing in Him. While it is true that you may always miss the person or the thing lost, that does not mean that you must suffer permanent loneliness.

I believe there are two vital steps anyone wishing to overcome loneliness must take:

1. Know that God is with you all the time. In the Bible, God reminds us that He is always with us...that He'll never forsake us. Loneliness often leads us into asking ourselves all sorts of questions that can't be answered, such as: "What if I am alone for the rest of my life?" "What if this pain I am feeling never goes away?" "What if a problem arises that I don't know how to handle on my own?" "What if...what if...what if...?" The questions could go on and on, endlessly. Chances are, you'll never be able to answer the "what if's" in life. But as long as you know that the Lord is with you, you can be assured that He has all the answers you need.

2. "Press aggressively" into a new life. Not everything in your life is over; just one part of it has ended. One season has passed, and another can now begin if you are willing to take action. Don't just passively sit and wait for something to happen or someone to come along. Go make new friends. Find someone else who is lonely and be a friend to that individual. You will reap what you sow, and God will return that friendship many times over.

Let the loneliness you feel turn into compassion for other lonely people and then decide to do something about it!

叮叮 · Jul 26th, 2006, 21:21

我理解樓主的心情。

一步步來吧。爲了也許很美好的未來。

我是风儿 · Jul 26th, 2006, 22:30

俺也想suicide，俺虽然有老公有孩子，但总不觉得他们爱俺。

LZ妹妹，每个人活在世上都有自己的烦恼，每个人都得suffering，就算两人相对心也会觉得很遥远。就这么过吧，自己做自己的救世主。

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你去看看好不好玩。俺不是单身，就不去了。

happyboy · Jul 26th, 2006, 23:30

One of the key things for people as far as joy is concerned is not living a selfish, self-centered lifestyle where we live our lives expecting everybody else to do something for us.

One woman I know was extremely depressed. She talked to her pastor and was bemoaning her depressed state. He said, "I want you start X number of times a week baking cookies for somebody and giving them to them." Then she was like, "How in the world is that going to help my depression?" And he said, "Because you have your mind on yourself. You need to stop thinking about everything that’s wrong in your life." And sure enough, just through starting to bake cookies for people, it helped her get her mind off of herself and her problems and then her joy level increased.-by Joyce Meyer

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apple0811 Member 注册日期: Jul 2005 帖子: 50	I also want to kill myself I am a female, having nobody care about me and love me. I also feel I want to kill myself a lot of times because I feel I am not important to anyone. I endure, endure and endure, hoping and waiting love in my life to give me some hope. However, I feel human beings are selfish, unreliable, I can not find anyone could let me depend on in my life and give me the hope. I really can not go further any longer, I am so tired, lonely and painful. I have overcomed so many difficulties, burned so much pains, but I feel it is endless sufferings. I don't know how can I save myself. I only can concentrate on work, study to forget my pains, still that is my solution. Is it helpful to have a religion? Is there anyone who have the same feeling?
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Pilotski Senior Member 注册日期: Feb 2006 帖子: 671 积分:5 精华:1 声望: 2961810	去参加一些聚会，活动，多认识些朋友，心情就会好起来。

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fenyullow Karma Samten 注册日期: Jul 2004 帖子: 942 声望: 2490858	I feel human beings are selfish, unreliable, I can not find anyone could let me depend on >> 在说别人的时候，有时候也要想想自己。您说人很自私，不可靠，让您觉得无法依赖，但是您有没有想过您这种一死百了、置亲人、朋友于不顾，也是一种自私，而且是更大的自私。我们处在无休止的轮回痛苦之中，感觉到各种各样的痛苦是再正常不过的，没有感觉不是因为没有痛苦，而是已经麻木了而已。我经常劝人的一句话是：我们无法改变我们所处的环境，但是我们能改变的是我们自己的心灵，是我们对环境的看法。

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b747lr Senior Member 注册日期: Jul 2004 帖子: 3,761 精华:1 声望: 932365	俺这么说吧如果你觉得长得不错, 那就不用着急, 自然有鱼会上钩的, 但是如果你太挑剔, 那是你自己的事如果你觉得长得不好看, 那一定得用出你女人的本事, 不好看的女人找到个称心的男人, 这种例子很多, 看你女人的手腕了如果你还年轻, 这种事不用太着急, 急躁的心态会过去的如果你年纪较大了, 那就不要计较太多, 抓住一个是一个(不要老想什么love, 那东西很虚) 最忌讳的是要寻死, 这样那个男人敢和你......? 这是女人的大忌, 你这样想, 很可能就是你目前状况的原因. 这个世界, 是谁也不欠谁的.

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成虫 Senior Member 注册日期: Nov 2005 帖子: 605 声望: 751002	如果这不是坑的话，俺可以帮你。想开一点，没有过不去的槛。不过如果你真的真的真的想死，就去吧。这是你的权利，任何人也无法剥夺的。
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杜德伟 Senior Member 注册日期: Apr 2006 帖子: 209 声望: 19881	忧郁症难医的真相 ·素黑黑洞博客· 很多人有抑忧症，觉得难以自控，像被无形的力量牵引住，捆缚到最后还是无法解脱的痛苦。为什么抑郁症那么可怕和难医？抑郁症最大的问题不是病的本身，而是你认同它的心态。每个人或多或少有抑郁的本质，但成熟的人会转移情绪，不会让单一情绪过份集中，致把所有能量全倾倒在抑郁上，结果无法容纳其它正面的情绪反应如快乐，自如，平和。孤独本来就是生命的本质，而负面的人却将孤独扩大，变成独特的痛苦，只有自己一个人领悟的可怜状态。这样又中了负面思想的陷阱，结果是，不是快乐从没出现过，而是你选择放弃快乐，宁愿拥抱痛苦不愿放手，因为失去痛苦的惯性，你变得很空洞，不懂得向其它情绪反应。这才是病态。记住：痛苦的原因可能是真的，但维护它却是你的选择，你所经历的并不是痛苦的必然原因，反而是你逃避快乐或平静的借口。每个人都曾经受过伤害，爱情的，亲情的，友情的，职场上的恩怨是非，甚至学校里尔虞我诈的人性丑陋。但活在过去的人会执着伤痛，勇敢的人会向前走，为自己疗伤，所以他们会健康快乐起来。我们无法改变际遇和不幸，但我们可以有觉知的能力改变自己的情绪，所以有些人能坚强面对逆境，有些会沉溺在抑郁中不能自拔。成熟的人是对自己所有的发生负责任。
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b747lr Senior Member 注册日期: Jul 2004 帖子: 3,761 精华:1 声望: 932365	女人有两个忌讳: 第一, 不要整天在love上胡思乱想, 那是中学生的境界. 你脑子里的那种love根本就没有, 所以自然觉得其他人自私, 就是直截了当, 找个男人过第二, 不要太挑. 很多条件很好的女孩, 跳来跳去, 误了终身, 这见过很多啦

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happyboy Senior Member 注册日期: Jul 2004 帖子: 440 声望: 37759	Alone Doesn't Have to Mean Lonely by Joyce Meyer A major problem facing many people today is loneliness. It seems to have become even more of an issue recently. As I travel the world, I see an increasing number of people requesting help and guidance for handling the loneliness in their lives. In the Bible, God tells us we are not alone. He wants to deliver, comfort, and heal us. But when people encounter painful losses in their lives, sadly, many never get over them. Sometimes when sudden tragedy occurs, the hurt seems unbearable. Without help, a sense of loneliness can actually settle on a person or family like a cloud—and it doesn't seem to go away. There are many causes of loneliness, but many people don't realize that they don't need to live with it. They can confront it and deal with it. Loneliness often manifests as an inner ache, a vacuum, or a craving for affection. Its side effects include feelings of emptiness, uselessness, or purposelessness. Are you alone (independent, solitary, on your own), or are you lonely (desolate, deserted, dejected due to a lack of companionship)? There is a very real difference. It is important to realize that just because you are alone, it doesn't mean that you must be lonely or lonesome. While it may not always be possible to avoid being alone, there are always answers to loneliness. Many times loneliness results from a trauma or crisis resulting from the death of a loved one, a divorce, or separation. When something happens to make us realize that things are never going to be the way they once were, it often creates crisis or trauma in our lives, which can lead to a sense of loneliness and despair. Like a wound healing, the pain may be felt for a long time, but complete recovery requires daily improvement. When a physical wound refuses to heal, it is an indication that there is an infection that must be dealt with. I believe the same is true of emotional wounds. The emotional part of us should heal just like the physical part of us. God gave us emotions just as He gave us physical bodies. He has provided for our emotional restoration just as He has provided for our physical healing in Him. While it is true that you may always miss the person or the thing lost, that does not mean that you must suffer permanent loneliness. I believe there are two vital steps anyone wishing to overcome loneliness must take: 1. Know that God is with you all the time. In the Bible, God reminds us that He is always with us...that He'll never forsake us. Loneliness often leads us into asking ourselves all sorts of questions that can't be answered, such as: "What if I am alone for the rest of my life?" "What if this pain I am feeling never goes away?" "What if a problem arises that I don't know how to handle on my own?" "What if...what if...what if...?" The questions could go on and on, endlessly. Chances are, you'll never be able to answer the "what if's" in life. But as long as you know that the Lord is with you, you can be assured that He has all the answers you need. 2. "Press aggressively" into a new life. Not everything in your life is over; just one part of it has ended. One season has passed, and another can now begin if you are willing to take action. Don't just passively sit and wait for something to happen or someone to come along. Go make new friends. Find someone else who is lonely and be a friend to that individual. You will reap what you sow, and God will return that friendship many times over. Let the loneliness you feel turn into compassion for other lonely people and then decide to do something about it!
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叮叮。注册日期: Jul 2004 帖子: 3,974 精华:2 声望: 7977928	我理解樓主的心情。一步步來吧。爲了也許很美好的未來。
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我是风儿 Senior Member 注册日期: Jul 2004 帖子: 3,302 积分:22 精华:7 声望: 4580228	俺也想suicide，俺虽然有老公有孩子，但总不觉得他们爱俺。 LZ妹妹，每个人活在世上都有自己的烦恼，每个人都得suffering，就算两人相对心也会觉得很遥远。就这么过吧，自己做自己的救世主。刚在信箱中收到一个信，关于“Single Professionals BBQ and Beach Volleyball”，Bill Wu 416 293-0914 rose@torontochinese.ca http://www.torontochinese.ca 你去看看好不好玩。俺不是单身，就不去了。此帖于 Jul 26th, 2006 23:03 被我是风儿编辑。

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happyboy Senior Member 注册日期: Jul 2004 帖子: 440 声望: 37759	One of the key things for people as far as joy is concerned is not living a selfish, self-centered lifestyle where we live our lives expecting everybody else to do something for us. One woman I know was extremely depressed. She talked to her pastor and was bemoaning her depressed state. He said, "I want you start X number of times a week baking cookies for somebody and giving them to them." Then she was like, "How in the world is that going to help my depression?" And he said, "Because you have your mind on yourself. You need to stop thinking about everything that’s wrong in your life." And sure enough, just through starting to bake cookies for people, it helped her get her mind off of herself and her problems and then her joy level increased.-by Joyce Meyer
happyboy Senior Member 注册日期: Jul 2004 帖子: 440 声望: 37759